I have written about William Holman Hunt’s painting Isabella and the Pot of Basil many times before. I included it in a recent Wombat Friday and you can read the story behind it in the post Love, Death, and Potted Plants. It’s a painting that is hard to walk away from when you see it in person; it’s quite large and Isabella looks so very real that she draws you in as you recognize both her exquisite beauty and her melancholy.
Today I was thinking about the painting and the story it is based on (first told in the Decameron by Boccaccio, which later inspired the poem by Keats). Isabella, the daughter of an affluent family, is in love with one of their servants, Lorenzo. Her brothers, having planned for Isabella to make a financially advantageous marriage, decide that swift action must be taken to stop the lovers. They murder Lorenzo. His ghost later appears to Isabella and he leads her to his buried body. She digs him up, removes his head, and buries it in a pot of basil. She then cares for the basil obsessively, pining away and consumed with grief. It’s a romantic yet macabre story. Reading the poem and seeing the many depictions of it, it’s easy to be swept away in the melodrama.
This morning, though, it occurred to me that there is a deeper lesson to be gleaned here.
Nothing ends, everything changes.
Horrible things happen and we experience grief and despair and all sorts of wretched states of being that we are convinced we will be stuck in forever.
But, like the basil nourished by the decapitated head of Lorenzo, something grows.
No one likes manure, but it causes things to bloom.
I despise cliches. I cringe when people speak in platitudes and tell grief stricken friends that everything happens for a reason or that their loss was part of God’s plan. Loss, depression, and sorrow are difficult to process and shallow statements never help. They are glancing blows, often said in kindness but with the potential to compound the pain.
Paintings like Isabella and the Pot of Basil help me to think about loss and its many aspects in ways that are far more useful and probing. Art and literature help me plumb the depths so I can find healing and hope when I need it.
Isabella does not gloss over horror by pretending the loss makes sense in some sort of cosmic plan. Yet it tells me that despite the pain, there is growth. It may not be the growth we wanted, but it’s what we have and how we respond to it is in our control.
The most obvious example of growth is the basil. There is a tragic cycle here. It flourishes from Lorenzo’s decay. Isabella’s tears moisten the leaves. While the basil grows, Isabella’s living body does the opposite. She wastes away as she obsessively tends the plant. Just like Isabella, we pay the price for anything that commands our attention with obsession. We need a healthy balance in our lives or the cost becomes dangerously high.
We all pay the price of admission.
Another example of growth I see here is the work itself. Holman Hunt used his pregnant wife Fanny as a model. His child grew in the womb while this painting was being born on canvas. Hunt’s wife died in childbirth. The work then grew in a different direction as he finished it as a memorial to her. He continued to paint the grief stricken Isabella, the real artist and the fictional maiden each somehow intertwining and becoming examples of living with loss.
The fact that I love this painting could be seen as morbid, perhaps. It’s a dark tale and there is no happy ending. I don’t need happy endings to convince me they exist. And I don’t need a cheerful image that focuses only on the positive.
What I need is art that explores all the ugliness so that I can process it when it happens, and process it in a way that allows me to see the beauty within my own life. Because it’s there and I’m grateful for it and images like Isabella help me to hang on to the happiness and peace I enjoy with all my might. I said I did not like cliches, but I am going to use one now: Life is short. And I am going to experience it with everything I have.